I need some opinions/suggestions.. anything really.
My Father has an elderly Toy Poodle named Candy. I believe she's 13. She's grossly overweight (25 pounds) and has heart problems. She tires easily and hack and coughs. She's also blind and because of that fell off the couch last summer and torn both ACL's in her rear legs. They went to the vet, did x-rays and the vet said she is not a candidate for surgery due to her age, heart problems and weight. My father was practically begging him to do the surgery but the vet said with her heart problems she most likely wouldn't survive the surgery and if she did her age and weight would work against her recovery. They were given pain meds for her instead since my Father absolutely refused to even 'think' about euthanizing her. I understand.. he loves her and can't fathom the thought of her not being here.
Fast-forward to now and her legs have healed. If you can call it that. She walks stiff legged but isn't in any pain currently. So my Father thinks she's fine.. a bit less mobile but fine. But for me watching her day to day... her quality of life is just not there. If I bring it up he gets upset and angry. I think he knows her time is coming but he doesn't want to deal with it.
I'm not sure I've mentioned it here or not.. but my Father is deaf and has limited speech. At times explaining things to him is difficult. With it being such a sensitive subject I don't know how to talk to him about it.
My mother can't even get through to him.
What should I do? Should I just leave it be and let him decide when it's time? I don't know what to do.