I don't think it is so much accepting naughty behaviour as much as the fact that our dogs, unlike our children, are never going to leave home and have to survive in the world on their own. They are never going to have to get a job, understand and accept authority, due to an individuals position or title, work with whomever life throws at them, marry or raise a family, adapt to a variety of social situations, etc. As long as we are comfortable with their behavior, they conform to our rules and are trained to our standards, as their owners, I don't feel we are "not doing them any favors". What is acceptable in my home, for my dogs, may be completely unacceptable for others. That is why we all have different breeds and have different expectations of them. For me, that means I have a dog for almost every situation that I could find myself in. I have Max for comic relief and to take into public, no matter where it is, or who or what is going to be around us. He is my rock. I have Jake, if I ever want to meet people, and have an attention grabbing ball of fluff, who will also vocally alert me to everything that moves at home. I have Cody, who will vocally protect my home, from people and will go into public, just to be seen. I also have ChiChi, who entertains us, loves us, will protect us, our home and our property, from anyone and is a constant source of love and affection.
As far as pyr behavior, Jake is not my counter surfer. Max is. Jake would have to jump up on the counter, Max just rests his head on it. My dogs and I understand that what hits the floor, other than food, is fair game for them. It is my job to keep it off the floor, if I want it. They have trained me, to put my dirty clothes in the closet, hang up towels, put my shoes in the garage or closet, pick up what I drop immediately, put my laptop away and not leave it on the table, place the remote back on top of the TV when I am done with it for the night, close the sunroom doors when I have to bring my orchids in due to storms or cold weather. None of these things are bad habits to have. They actually make my life a little easier, for the most part, due to knowing exactly where things are.
I guess my point is that we all have house rules and expectations and as long as our dogs conform to what we think is acceptable, that should be good enough.
Kathy