I am still sort of new here, but I would like to add my 3 cents worth.
I think you are somewhat overestimating the importance, to us, of things being done 'on time' or 'perfectly'.
This site is a warm friendly place because of you. Your values and standards led you to choose moderators who would keep the site clean, supportive, warm and friendly.
I don't know how much time it takes to keep things going; but I wonder if more could be delegated out. What if you brought on a few more moderators, and approached people to do different things on the site.
Many people on this board don't have a life, and we would be happy to take on some of the responsibiliti
es, and you could still 'own' the site.
For example, someone could do the featured Paw Print each month. Someone else could be responsible for the monthly contests. Maybe a few people could coordinate the moderators; sort of like if you were the CEO, but you had a general manager, and a few other people on board for other tasks.
The other thing is that for as many hits as you guys get to this site, can you make more money on advertising? Maybe sell some merchandise? I've always thought this site could be quite profitable.
I'm just suggesting some options that I am sure you guys have already considered, but that I think you might revisit. You may be suprised by how much help you guys could get for the site, if you started delegating more.
We all benefit from this site, and it shouldn't fall all on you and your husband to keep it going.