Well, some of you know my husband and I are getting a divorce. For the past 3 months I have let him stay at the house with the dogs and cats and I have been staying at my new boyfriend's place. Aaron (new guy) and I go get Kentucky and Derby as often as we an during the week to walk them and I go to the house regularly to love on everyone else. Johann (soon to be ex) takes Rocko with him on his jobs (he's driving hotshot locally right now).
Well, ever since all this started going down, Johann said I could have the house (several times) and all he wanted was his truck and tools. Fine. A couple of weeks ago I told him I wanted to move back into the house by July 1. He said, "where am I supposed to live?" I said, "somewhere that's not here."
I'm crying myself to sleep almost every night because I miss my dogs and cats so much. He's already let 2 of my cats out of the house and no one has seen them since. Two other cats he's put out on the porch where they get little to no affection and I noticed today one of them has lost weight.
Derby is quite skinny now - although the other dogs look fine. I know he loves the dogs, but sometimes he's gone overnight so I don't think they get fed regularly.
And now, he says he doesn't want to let me have the house. He says he just keeps looking around and doesn't want to give up something he's put so much time into. We really haven't done a lot to the house. In fact, he's the king of half-finished projects and there are about a dozen major things that need to be done there - flooring in the bedroom, new carpet in the other 2 bedrooms, wallpaper or paint in one bathroom, floorboards replaced, doors replaced...
Meanwhile I'm
dying 'cause I don't have my babies, I don't have $$ for a divorce and to top it all off, I'm still paying 80% of the bills - 100% of the mortgage, his health insurance, homeowner's insurance, his car insurance (up until last week - finally), etc. He just started paying the electricity and water bills. I was paying everything and not getting to live there. I've been paying for everything myself since October - and he thinks he can have the house??
I need some advice...
Meanwhile, here are some pix of our outing with Kentucky and Derby today: