My 2 cents: Document Everything! Write down that he emptied the bank account. Date, time, amount, if you know it. There's a lot to be said about a good offense! (The best defense...yada yada!) That way you have more than just your memory to rely on. Write down dates, times, phone conversations, in person meetings, every contact, because it's not just a marriage here, you're fighting for the care and futures of your children! We stand behind you, Blair. Strenghten your backbone with the support you are getting from your family and your BPO friends. You're right, this is not the time to play nice to him, but in-your-face-nasty won't work, either. Calm, cool, intelligent and pulled together. You are a strong woman! Yes. This is a horrible situation to be in. You will come through this!