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BPO Off Topic Forum => Anything Non-Dog Related => : lins_saving_grace September 15, 2006, 05:34:18 AM
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I've been trying to stay quiet about the whole mess i call my life for a while. it seems all i do is complain about it and do nothing.Â
well...sometim e next week i will be filing for divorce. Wish me luck!!!
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I'm so sorry to hear that. You've obviously been struggling with this for awhile and that is never an easy decision. Good thoughts are coming your way.
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Hope everything works out for you. And hope you can get a better 'mess'.
~K
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Aww Lin, I hope everything goes ok! :-*
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I can't fix it. and i can't live with the lies and the drinking anymore. I busted him in a lie big time last night. (well i found out the truth this morning) but knew he was lying last night.
I just don't care anymore.
thank you for your support and good thoughts. Those will come in handy soon. Â
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Hope everything works out for you. And hope you can get a better 'mess'.
~K
God I hope not. I have so paid my dues!
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I'm so sorry Lin...It's just horrible... when you find out the truth... Hugs!
~K
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Nobody else knows your limits. And you're right, you can't fix a problem that is not solely yours. As the cheezy saying goes, "it takes two". Just know that you have a TON of support!
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I've nnoticed that you were unusually quiet. I don't think it is fair to yourself to say you've done nothing but complain. You've given him time to follow through on his promise or prove that he wouldn't. You kept your word to give him another chance. That is doing something pretty significant IMO. Hugs to you! I'm sure this won't be easy.
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Oh Lin - I am sorry to hear things have not improved at home. You have been so supportive and have tried in every way to help your husband. You deserve to be happy and cherished. I am here for you ANY time you want to talk or need to vent or need some support or need a little comic relief. Hang in there!
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AWW Lins! I'm sending hugs and lots of support. Take care hun!
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Oh, Lin that is such a tough decision and I'm sure you've tried everything you can....but sometimes it really is just better to fold the tent and move on. It WILL be hard...no question, but you are moving from dark to light! It will get better, your dues are paid and it's going to get better.
We've got your back....vent as much as you need to right here. We're your own personal cheering section! You can do this!!
Hugs, Drools and :-* :-* :-*
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I'm guilt ridden at the point about it. It's overwhelming to feel you can't help and you put your life on hold because they make you feel like you have to. but the lies are building. I could go into detail i suppose. I can't make this stuff up. it's better than fiction really.
He came home last night at 2am. told me he was helping a woman at work move to her mom's since he husband beat her up. (this is the same woman who 4 days ago he told me she was trying to get hired in full time for the benefits cuz she was doing the single mom thing). well the charge at the bank this morning told me he was at this place called PMS Enterprises. Doing what I do for a living I can find out any thing about anyone. The Articles of Corporation for this PMS Ent. is an adult movie theater. He wasn't helping anyone out last night...he was at a strip club. This isn't the first time i've seen that charge either.Â
The girls are the only important to me right now and I'll do my best to keep them both. but I'm done!!!
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Although I'm a virtual stranger I am truly sorry for your struggles, but also rejoice in your strength and resolve. Do what's best for you and you'll be happy. You deserve it!
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Although I'm a virtual stranger I am truly sorry for your struggles, but also rejoice in your strength and resolve. Do what's best for you and you'll be happy. You deserve it!Â
Thank you, Jennifer! I'm very comfortable with strangers. it's most of the people I know and see everyday I have a problem with.
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Thank you, Jennifer! I'm very comfortable with strangers. it's most of the people I know and see everyday I have a problem with.
Preachin' to the choir! ;D I hope you get the love and support you need from this group -- I think there's a bountiful supply of both. :-*
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Get it done and behind you, Lins. You are a truely wonderful person and deserve better than what you have been dealing with. You have our numbers if there is anything we can do, or if you just need to vent.
Stella 'n Dale
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Get it done and behind you, Lins. You are a truely wonderful person and deserve better than what you have been dealing with. You have our numbers if there is anything we can do, or if you just need to vent.
Stella 'n Dale
I have Dale's cell phone number.
Did you notice how he was at the meet n greet? so edgy and controlling.
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Did you notice how he was at the meet n greet? so edgy and controlling.
I noticed, and worse than that, I noticed how edgy he made you. You were different when I talked to you when he was right nearby than when he was otherwise occupied. It made me sad to see him have that effect on you.  :-\
Exactly. That's how i live every miunte even when he's not home. I hear something that sounds like him pulling in the driveway and my heart races and i can't breath. on weekends i am up and down and up and down cuz he won't get his butt off the couch but needs everything.
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Only you can put a stop to his behaivor in your life by taking it out of your life by leaving him...Take control of your life Lin...file for the divorce & follow through...Nobo dy deserves the crap he has and is putting you through...What you have to ask yourself is "would I be happier without him"...It sounds like you've already asked yourself that question and have your answer...Walk away with your head high and don't look back...Do not let him threaten you with the girls...He WILL try this...Take the girls & go...Good luck to you!...Do you still have my number?...Let me know...I am behind you 110% and I do really care. :-*
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OH LIN!
Hey, woman. I'm proud of ya. I noticed how he made you feel at the Meet-N-Greet and that sucked. Get your bootie outta there and have a good time. Give me a call, we'll go out partyin' in G.R.
I'm sorry that this is happening, but sometimes the biggest blessings are the ones we didn't quite understand at the time, ya know?
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Only you can put a stop to his behaivor in your life by taking it out of your life by leaving him...Take control of your life Lin...file for the divorce & follow through...Nobo dy deserves the crap he has and is putting you through...What you have to ask yourself is "would I be happier without him"...It sounds like you've already asked yourself that question and have your answer...Walk away with your head high and don't look back...Do not let him threaten you with the girls...He WILL try this...Take the girls & go...Good luck to you!...Do you still have my number?...Let me know...I am behind you 110% and I do really care. :-*
thank you. i do still have your number. Something creepy is happening now. i may need to run something by you.
The girl he supposedly helped last night emailed me. I replied that i didn't think she'd be at work today (knowing where he really was)...she emailed me some sob story about how tough life is and i replied with "i'm sorry but I better shut my big mouth now". it was like she was testing me or prying for info that he can't come out and get from me.
Am i being paranoid?
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OH LIN!
Hey, woman. I'm proud of ya. I noticed how he made you feel at the Meet-N-Greet and that sucked. Get your bootie outta there and have a good time. Give me a call, we'll go out partyin' in G.R.
I'm sorry that this is happening, but sometimes the biggest blessings are the ones we didn't quite understand at the time, ya know?
thank you!!! i know what you mean.
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Am i being paranoid?
Nope. I think you are hyper-senstive to protect yourself and that's a really, really good thing. Listen to the small voice of reason that is telling you that you are dealing with a person who is unstable and you need to be very careful. Unless you know, FOR SURE, who you are dealing with, be polited but distant. Don't let on what you are up to!!
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I'm so sorry this is like this, Lin. Protect yourself and your girls, for sure. Many prayers are coming your way.
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Only you can put a stop to his behaivor in your life by taking it out of your life by leaving him...Take control of your life Lin...file for the divorce & follow through...Nobo dy deserves the crap he has and is putting you through...What you have to ask yourself is "would I be happier without him"...It sounds like you've already asked yourself that question and have your answer...Walk away with your head high and don't look back...Do not let him threaten you with the girls...He WILL try this...Take the girls & go...Good luck to you!...Do you still have my number?...Let me know...I am behind you 110% and I do really care. :-*
thank you. i do still have your number. Something creepy is happening now. i may need to run something by you.Â
The girl he supposedly helped last night emailed me. I replied that i didn't think she'd be at work today (knowing where he really was)...she emailed me some sob story about how tough life is and i replied with "i'm sorry but I better shut my big mouth now". it was like she was testing me or prying for info that he can't come out and get from me.Â
Am i being paranoid?
Paranoid?..No, you are one smart woman :)...She is either on her own or at his request "testing the waters" to see if you are on to him...SAVE ANY FURTHER E-MAILS FROM THIS PERSON & document everything your husband says that sounds fishy which should be everything at this point & also any contact by her...You may need this in court.
I will do anything I can to help you...I HATE overgrown, spoiled little boys with a lying, bully streak...I much prefer men. ;) :)
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Lins, I am so behind you. Please stick to your decision. I was married to an alcholic for 18 years. Looking back now I wonder how I stayed with him that long. I, like you, was always hoping he would change. Remembering the feeling you speak of, being on edge, heart racing, trying everything to keep the peace. Truly, it is so much better to leave and be done with him. We are all here for you.
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Oh Lins I have not been on much or I would have replied sooner to your post. We are behind your decision and will support you all the way. Stick to your guns girl.... ;)
We love you & the girls :-*