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BPO Growl & Howl Forum => Groans, Gripes, Brags & Boasts => : lshelley21 August 11, 2006, 06:32:29 AM
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ok..so my little girl jaz has now officially learned how to chew on shoes, and the worst part is it wasn't by her own self-discovery. My sisters, bf taught her how to chew on shoes. I came home to 3 sets of shoes chewed...oddly enough only the right foot...but still.....then he also showed her how to chew a remote control for the TV. So Needless to say.... its in the trash as well. This guy basically manhandles my dog, you tell him to stop and he keeps going 10 fold. I HATE HIM. I know that you all probaly don't care to hear all of this, but in my family no one else owns a dog and they think that is what all dogs do. BUt the part that irks me the most.....HE STARTED IT ALL!!! So once i told him what happened and said please don't show her nor let her chew on anything, he gives her my shoe that she chewed, and she went to grab it ...and at no fault of her own (his fault) i had to correct her and kick him out. When he comes over or when i see him, Jazmines eye BULDGE out of her head .... like NNNOOOOO please mom not him!!! I dont know what to do, i have been nice to this guy, but not much longer. Last night Jaz was chewing nicely on one of her bones and what does he do????? Guess.... well you are right, he gave her my other new remote to chew on.... So what,,, now when he comes over i have to hide the dog? Now where can i hide a 105 lb great dane>? Under my bed...no....in my bedroom.... hmm chewy galore in there.... i dont get it..... he thinks he knows it all when it comes to dog. The thing is i train dog for service training (wheelchair helpers), as well as pet dogs. And he is telling me how how to raise my dog. A little graphic here... he told me he grabbed his male dogs *wooo who**** because it was sticking out. He did it to punsh his dog. I hate him and want him gone......
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Do you have your own place or do you live with your sis ?
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Place of my own.. but it is everytime i see her... she lives the next road down from me... we live in condo complex....and he is always with her. She even tells him to stop..... Can i put an electronic collar on him??????
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What a JERK!!! Is there a way to keep him from coming over? Do you live with your sister? Maybe you need to address this with her.
and why on earth would you want to introduce a bad habit to a dog? That astounds me!
If your sister won't do anything about him, I would suggest telling him that he is not allowed to interact with your dog unless you are present. If he doesn't like it, that's too bad. YOUR DOG, YOUR RULES. JACK@SS!!!
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I just don't understand why he thinks it is ok. I showed him the shoe she chewed up...he grabbed it from me ...walks over to Jaz who is innocently playing with her toys...and gives it to her. HE IS 46 years old!!!!!!! no one in my family likes him... he is an @ss in many ways...this is the main way to me though. Jaz was doing so well too.. she hasn't done that before to anything.
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Wow what a jerk! I like the shock collar idea but I don't know if he has enough brain cells to learn from it. What about a spray bottle with a foul concotion in it?
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there we go.... a concoction of booty blowout..... yeah there we go....
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K...you need to take control of the situation to protect your dog which is your duty...If he is doing this kind of thing obviously he has no respect for you or your dog...If he is manhandling your dog eventually she is going to bite him out of fear & then what???...Now you have a dog that has crossed the bite line & can no longer be fully trusted...Are you going to let this jerk ruin your dog?...I can say for certain that anyone who disrespected me in my own home like that & put my dog in danger of feeling like he or she had to protect themselves (because you're not protecting her when you allow this kind of thing to happen & she counts on you as pack leader to make sure she is safe!) would find the door smacking them in the butt on the way out as I'd have slammed it on them as they left...My own mother isn't welcomed here right now because she thinks it's funny to scare Samson who is already fearful though I have asked her to stop...Please do not allow this person in your home anymore...Do you think he cares if you have a dog that is sound or not?...Of coarse not or he wouldn't be doing these things!...Hurt feelings are SO worth keeping your dog safe in body & mind, which again is your duty to your fur friend.
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You know you are right. It was horrible of me to allow that to happen to her. I am the one who put her in that situation, and the only one who can get her out of the situation is me as well. I know. I do feel horrible, I know that she wouldn't bite, but i also know that it was inappropriate too. I do need to stick up for my dog because if i don't then no one will. Thank you for telling me that. THat is exactly what i needed to hear. Thank you !! I guess that i have not said anything because i felt it was my sisters responsibilty to control him, alhtough if she isn't then i will have to!! thanks again
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 A little graphic here... he told me he grabbed his male dogs *wooo who**** because it was sticking out. He did it to punsh his dog. I hate him and want him gone......
Now that sounds like a good plan for him.I agree with others that have said it is up to you to put a stop to him.and barr him from your home.
I know you can't fix stupid,but this goes way beyound stupid.
Protect your baby,bf of sis or not.
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You know you are right. It was horrible of me to allow that to happen to her. I am the one who put her in that situation, and the only one who can get her out of the situation is me as well. I know. I do feel horrible, I know that she wouldn't bite, but i also know that it was inappropriate too. I do need to stick up for my dog becausesome lower but if i don't then no one will. Thank you for telling me that. THat is exactly what i needed to hear. Thank you !! I guess that i have not said anything because i felt it was my sisters responsibilty to control him, alhtough if she isn't then i will have to!! thanks again
I was hoping that you would not be offended! :) this is serious serious business so I felt I had to be blunt...Don't feel horrible!...It is very difficult where family is concerned...Be lieve me I know!!!! >:( One thing though, you say your dog wouldn't bite but please remember that,as much of a sweetie as I am sure she is & as much as you trust her, she is still a dog & ALL dogs have a bite threshold that if crossed will push them into behaivor they normally wouldn't show...Some dogs have a higher bite threshold & some lower but they all have one...Good luck with your situation!!! :)
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it is good to hear, and it is the truth and that is why i am not offended. It is nice to hear it from someone else. I do know about the threshold, i don't know (nor hope to never find out) how high her's is. Although so far, she is very tolerant.
Random:
I just found out that 4 of her siblings out of a litter of 8 are in shelters (no-kill) but still... it is horrible. I wish people researched animals before the get them.
I will greatly keep your advice at the tip of my tounge everytime she asks to walk Jaz, or to come over, or even at the family BBQ's. Something has to be done.
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I am going to take and print that out.... That is perfect. Thank you. I actually have to deal with "him" tonight so i will talk to my sister.
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it is good to hear, and it is the truth and that is why i am not offended. It is nice to hear it from someone else. I do know about the threshold, i don't know (nor hope to never find out) how high her's is. Although so far, she is very tolerant.
Random:
I just found out that 4 of her siblings out of a litter of 8 are in shelters (no-kill) but still... it is horrible. I wish people researched animals before the get them.
I will greatly keep your advice at the tip of my tounge everytime she asks to walk Jaz, or to come over, or even at the family BBQ's. Something has to be done.
Just keep us posted & come here when you need people who understand to back you up!...I know I speak for everyone when I say we will lend you strength! :)
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I wish that sign also had something of the sort of Personal space for the dog...when he pets her he pats her head like i would kill a mosquito.... hard but doesn't stop... he keeps her face less than 2 inches from his face....like stop molesting my dog please.
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lol he deserves to be biten...just not by Jaz.... I will bring my wooden cutting board with me tonight at the bbq...and write in big letters JOSH... (his name) and everytime he goes near her he will get wacked by my 6'7, 320 lb hubby. That will do him in....no.. but i will definitly have a conversation about respecting my property, and that i am not my sister and he has to respect me and my dog for that matter and cut the booty blowouts. and i do have to say i like the cattle prod idea... put that in an area where the sun don't shine..lol... believe me i will tell you all on monday how it went. I don't have access from home... only from work..(tee hee)
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lol he deserves to be biten...just not by Jaz.... I will bring my wooden cutting board with me tonight at the bbq...and write in big letters JOSH... (his name) and everytime he goes near her he will get wacked by my 6'7, 320 lb hubby. That will do him in....no.. but i will definitly have a conversation about respecting my property, and that i am not my sister and he has to respect me and my dog for that matter and cut the booty blowouts. and i do have to say i like the cattle prod idea... put that in an area where the sun don't shine..lol... believe me i will tell you all on monday how it went. I don't have access from home... only from work..(tee hee)
Go get him girl! ;D Remember YOU ARE RIGHT!!!...110% RIGHT!...Don't let ANYONE suggest any different i.e. "It's just fun...I'm just playing with her" etc...If you take your dog tonight & he starts this behaivor only you can stop it...Calmly collect your dogger & explain that you can't have your dog learn bad behaviors or take the chance of having her put in a position where she might feel the need to defend herself...Tell everyone you had a good time...Thank them...Say your goodbyes & walk away with your head up high! ;D
Let us know how it went Monday!! :)
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I do really like the advice NoDogNow has given you and I wholeheartedly agree. However, I was leaning towards teaching Jaz to bite his woohoo whenever he misbehaves around you...You could even have a command for it. Like "Sic em!".
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was leaning towards teaching Jaz to bite his woohoo whenever he misbehaves around you
You're presuming he has a woohoo big enough for Jaz to get her teeth around. With jerks like this, you usually need one of those great big Sherlock Holmes magnifying glasses to find the woohoo, and Jaz doesn't have any thumbs to hold one....not to mention that you'd need surgical tweezers to get ahold of it.
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I agree with everyone here. I cannot believe this guy is in his 40's!! When reading this at first, I thought he was just an immature 20-something. Man, this guy needs a serious reality check as to what is and is not appropriate in other people's homes. I cannot believe he acted with such utter disrespect for you and your dog.
What an a-hole.
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Well the BBQ went very well. I guess my sister had words with him. We went to this family BBQ with dread, dragging feet the whole way there. Once we were there Josh came and said hi to her.... patted her back and .... LEFT!!!! it was great, it was NORMAL!!! Unfortunatly they were both very fake at the party, but oh well...made everyone elses life so much better.
Unfortunatly i am sure that this isn't over in his mind, but it sure is on my end. To the BBQ i brought my wooding cutting board with me. I was asked why..and the respoce... NO ONE MESSES WITH MY GIRL!!! I kicked @ss. This weekend after the bbq i guess he went on a work trip.... THANK THE LORD! My sis and i hung out at a friends pool (were jaz went swimming in her new life jacket, and swum like a pro with her new toy too!!) and she had so much fun. WHile we were there Josh called her 6 times in a matter of 3 hours! I trying to set her up with my friend... *seems to be working** you see... every sunday we hang out at his *TOM* my friend house. So she said that she will tell JOSH she is going to a family only BBQ and he can't come lol. I dont know why she just doesn't leave him. But oh well. So i have that sign on my doors, and Josh knows the rules of no making love to my dog... she is mine and only mine and i am her's. I am the only one who is allowed to get that close with my dog... partly because she is a lovey puppy with me and matt only! NOT HIM. So i think he got the hint, but i will be sure to let you know.
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You have your mindset right now!...I love that you said it might not be over for him but it is for you!...Keept that train of thought! ;D
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Excellent job handling the situation - you have to do what is right for your immediate family. Extended family is sometimes difficult but we must protect our babies.
Hope it all works out for you.
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Just keep your cutting board with you at all times, so you can knock his block off.
And keep throwing LOTS of other decent guys at your sister. Hopefully, she'll get the hint that this Josh idiot is NOT a person she needs in her life.
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IShelly21 I am so proud of you! I know it can be hard to confront an a-hole like that and I think you did a wonderful job! He now knows that you mean business and your sister does too. Way to go girl!
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lol i do have to say when jaz saw him... her eyes said it all....NNNNNNO OOOOOOOO...but superior protection came into play...and she just didnt know what hit her....... it was the SUPER MOTHER!!! Protection on the way!!!!!
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 A little graphic here... he told me he grabbed his male dogs *wooo who**** because it was sticking out. He did it to punsh his dog. I hate him and want him gone......
Now that sounds like a good plan for him.I agree with others that have said it is up to you to put a stop to him.and barr him from your home.
I know you can't fix stupid,but this goes way beyound stupid.
Protect your baby,bf of sis or not.
OMG!..I didn't catch that before!...He grabbed his dog's penis to punish him because it was sticking out????...Had he thought of maybe neutering his dog if "nature" offends him that much???...Please tell me I am understanding this wrong..PLEASE!...I really hope your sister finds a real man...That is just wierd...I sincerely hope he doesn't have children. :'( :( >:(
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MY SISTER DUMPED THE TURKEY THIS WEEKEND!!!! right after his b-day. Her B-day was on Aug. 24, he was a jerk, everyone left her party early because of him. Then the net day was his b-day, and he did something stupid and the next day he is GONE!~!!!!!!.... although sad to report...she had dinner with him? I don't know what is up with that...but he is gone and out of my viewing for ever!!!
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MY SISTER DUMPED THE TURKEY THIS WEEKEND!!!! right after his b-day. Her B-day was on Aug. 24, he was a jerk, everyone left her party early because of him. Then the net day was his b-day, and he did something stupid and the next day he is GONE!~!!!!!!.... although sad to report...she had dinner with him? I don't know what is up with that...but he is gone and out of my viewing for ever!!!
Oh that is the best news I've had today!!...Hurry & get her busy doing fun stuff with you!...invite her over for dinner, shopping, cocktails, or just girl's time like every day!!!...Don't leave her to get bored & start to miss the jerk!...I hope your sister will move on & be happy!! ;D
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WOW!!! I just read this thread and can't believe I missed it! I just want to say that I love you guys! You all have the best advice and the way you all stick together: not only for the dogs but for each other! :-* :-* :-*
I hope your sister has learned what it's like to be with a bad guy is now so she won't do that again!! Give her a short time to grieve for the end of the relationship ::) ::) ::) and then start pushing decent guys her way!
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MY SISTER DUMPED THE TURKEY THIS WEEKEND!!!! right after his b-day. Her B-day was on Aug. 24, he was a jerk, everyone left her party early because of him. Then the net day was his b-day, and he did something stupid and the next day he is GONE!~!!!!!!.... although sad to report...she had dinner with him? I don't know what is up with that...but he is gone and out of my viewing for ever!!!
Oh that is the best news I've had today!!...Hurry & get her busy doing fun stuff with you!...invite her over for dinner, shopping, cocktails, or just girl's time like every day!!!...Don't leave her to get bored & start to miss the jerk!...I hope your sister will move on & be happy!! ;D
I agree! Get her busy! Introduce her to cute boys! Do dinner, do drinks, get her out doing stuff! I am so glad to hear that he is out of the picture. What an a55!
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YUP!!! we are all happy. We are keeping her busy, and away from "HIM". On friday nights we are making a movie night at my house. Hopefully she will go to the gym with me, and that can be our time together, and turn back into the sister i used to know. Hopefully this means that she will be as normal as normal can be. AHHH.... big sigh of relief.