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thanks everyone!  i agree with the identity thing, i very much need "my" stuff.  my mom and i are both very independent, and she raised me to be even more stand on my own than she is.  as it is i hate the fact i can't work.  i want to contribute money wise too, but with the kids i'm needed more at home right now.  hubby thinks i should be happy with things and just doesn't understand that i'm human before anything, then a mommy, THEN a wife.  he doesn't understand my need to have *my own* things, time, life, friends, etc. etc.  it's quite frustrating, and i believe now i should have married an old guy, at least they "should" have already learned how women work!

i will be calling around about the battery, i think it's bs.  he said auto zone didn't even have one, or advanced auto.  i don't see that happening, as there are a good # of foreign cars in the area (and all over!). 

oh, he will be driving with the boys, one way or another.  the dealer wants to give us $1000 for my truck, i told hubby there's no way in h*ll-o i'll do that.  it's worth way more than that, even if it is only that way in my head.

i'm so glad i'm not the only one who thinks like i do!  i was starting to think i *was* being selfish by throwing a "fit" over this, but now i feel it's justified.  i guess what makes things worst is that his family all agrees with him and my whole family agrees with me 

thanks for the input!  i definately need more help to learn how to be taken seriously.  everyone thinks i'm playing or something when i'm serious (at least hubby / kid wise).  i'm going to the links now!

modified to add i laughed b/c of your i'm not saying your fat part.  i'm not lol, i'm short, and average.  not fat, but not skinny as a rail either lmao

If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

if only i could get him to believe / understand that!  he's very much "you can do it" and that's one thing i hate about him.  sometimes he really acts like it's all about him, yesterday i finally blew up at him when i got 5 minutes with no kids, and no chores to do and he came up annoying me "wanting attention."  he got attention, but the bad sort.  if anyone's hubby completely understands that concept, can i borrow him for a bit to come and give brandon lessons?  or send him to you for training??   

you have all our thoughts and prayers!  i'm so sorry, and i'm wishing both of you the best!  i agree, maybe since it's such an odd case, things will be more in your favor.

sending all our well wishes and love

ok.  so, hubby and i have two SUV's.  he doesn't particularly like his, for whatever reason, and swears it's about to "crap out on him."  it's a 2004 and in great shape.  nothings wrong with it except that he left it sitting for SEVERAL months (drove a company car) and the battery has gone bad.  ok, no big deal.  except that it's a suzuki and we have to get the battery from a dealer, which will cost us about $100+, so hubby says.  i think he just said that to get what he wants.  either way, nice.  i have an older ford explorer (96).  i love it.  it doesn't have AC, but otherwise runs GREAT.  no problems.  until hubby drives it.  it has a V8, and hubby doesn't understand it isn't going to get up and go like his smaller SUV.  it's a BIG truck, and if you gun it it just goes into overdrive and is still a bit slow getting going, compared to a sports car or small suv with a smaller engine, less weight to get going, etc.  come on, use common sense, don't gun it!  right?!  well, he does anyways, and hits something and knocks a hole in my muffler.  nice.  easy fix though.  well, now hubby wants to trade both cars in for one new one.  our 2004 is paid off in just a few months, and the explorer was paid in cash.  why?!?!  i love my truck, and don't want to trade MINE in just so he can have the satisfaction of getting a new car.  reason being, we're upside down on the car and he wants to put $0 down on a new one, so it'll require *mine* to do that, and pay his off essentially.  yeah, i love new cars, but i like the freedom of being able to drive whenever wherever.  granted, i rarely go anywhere, it's just the fact that *i can*!  he doesn't understand this, and is somewhat irritated with me for not just saying "ok, here's my title" (which is in just my name for this reason exactly).  he swears upside down that "both trucks are going to crap out on the drive to texas."  why can't he just understand that he's being childish and that there isn't anything wrong with either car, he just wants a new one!  he acts like i'll have the single vehicle all the time, but i know better.  i'm not going to wake all the kids up before 6am to bring him to work.  or like before i got my truck when he wouldn't even wake me up to go, and would just leave and say he tried to wake me up.  i know better, i woke up w/ his alarm and waited to see and he just snuck out the house.  his excuse?   he didn't feel like dealing w/ the kids in the morning.  so i was stuck at the house all the time, which stressed me b/c i didn't even have an option but to stay there.  i'm starting to ramble now.  i'm sure everyone gets the point.  sorry for the length but i figure if anyone would understand you guys would.

this is an older post, tonka already has a new home w / another BPO member 

how pretty!  i love her!!