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Anything Non-Dog Related / Re: Facebook Blast from the Past....Need Advice!
« on: June 14, 2008, 03:23:37 pm »
My ex-girlfriend from 4th grade contacted me through MySpace a couple of years ago. We got together a couple of times, and I wasn't at all surprised to find out that she'd grown into a stunningly gorgeous woman. But, in the end, we just weren't the right fit for one another, and went our separate ways. No big deal. I was just happy to see her again and know that she's doing well.
The catch here is that her and I were both SINGLE and had gone out in ELEMENTARY school. We didn't meet up with any unfinished business on our lips or deep-rooted emotions pushed to the bottom of our stomaches. If anything, it was two long lost friends meeting up for the first time since childhood - and, in that regard, it worked out beautifully.
Your circumstances happened during college, though. And, while most people aren't emotionally matured by college, they're certainly aware of what's right and wrong when it comes to the treatment of another human being. I'm not of the belief that those personality traits just vanish, either. I think they just find other ways to manifest.
If this guy simply wants to apologize for being a jerk to you in college, let him do it through Facebook - and then tell him to get off the computer and go spend some time with his wife.
If it's an issue that YOU need face-to-face closure for, I'd definitely bring your husband. Let this guy say what he needs to say, make sure YOU say what you need to say, then go back to your respective lives.
But the bottom line for me is that I'd completely question the motives of ANY married man (women too, but especially a married man) incessantly requesting to meet face-to-face with his old girlfriend.
The catch here is that her and I were both SINGLE and had gone out in ELEMENTARY school. We didn't meet up with any unfinished business on our lips or deep-rooted emotions pushed to the bottom of our stomaches. If anything, it was two long lost friends meeting up for the first time since childhood - and, in that regard, it worked out beautifully.
Your circumstances happened during college, though. And, while most people aren't emotionally matured by college, they're certainly aware of what's right and wrong when it comes to the treatment of another human being. I'm not of the belief that those personality traits just vanish, either. I think they just find other ways to manifest.
If this guy simply wants to apologize for being a jerk to you in college, let him do it through Facebook - and then tell him to get off the computer and go spend some time with his wife.
If it's an issue that YOU need face-to-face closure for, I'd definitely bring your husband. Let this guy say what he needs to say, make sure YOU say what you need to say, then go back to your respective lives.
But the bottom line for me is that I'd completely question the motives of ANY married man (women too, but especially a married man) incessantly requesting to meet face-to-face with his old girlfriend.
