I don't understand why anyone would give much of a rip who the dog trainer is 'with'. Um all I care about is that they be a good trainer. Of course if the issue is that she is immasculating, I guess I can see him not liking that, although even there, I don't really care about the peronality as much as the professionalis
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I think if you do what you did, you'll get what you got. In other words, if Dell is acting out now, and you don't train him, he will keep acting out...only worse because he will keep pushing the boundaries.
Maybe the two of you could compromise and find a trainer you both like.
I would STRONGLY recommend 'Leader of the Pack' you can order it through Amazon. It is the single best, easiest to understand book I have ever found. Badger was a BEAST as a puppy, he was growly, snarly, aggressive, unruley, stubborn, and NASTY. If you picked him up, he bared all his teeth and snarled at you. Now, after all his training, including hand feeding, nilf, what I learned in that book, and lots of love, he is growly, stubborn, and stinky!!!!! HUGE improvement!