Lin- I'm new here but just wanted to post, I know exacly what you are going through worrying about Lady- My husband and I seperated a year after he came home from Iraq (I swear to God, that war destroyes more marriages then every other reason combined) and the divorce is going to be final any day now- I loved that feeling of freedom as well, although mine was much later in coming since for the first 8 months of the seperation I fought so hard to make the marriage work, but as soon as I realized he wasnt going to lift a finger to change, and was going to continue being abusive- I turned my back on a 10 year relationship (My ONLY relationship!) and walked away. the second I shut the door on him I instantly felt like 100 LBS of weight was lifted off my shoulders. Tomorrow, Ex-hubby picks up 'his' two cats, both cats that I brought home to him (he is more of a cat person then I am) and raised and took care of and did all vet care for for 8 years. One is 8, the other is 5- For the last year of the seperation they have lived with me, and they were with me for the two years he was in Iraq, but of course they are considered his "property" because they were given to him by me, and theres nothing I can do about it. It's breaking my heart!!! The only thing I can hope for is that after a few weeks he calls me back and says "I cant handle this, its too much you take them back" since he has never once taken care of them on his own. Like everyone else I see that happening with your Lady too- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you too, and congrats on your new found freedom!
