the last thing i want is a c-section. i've heard so many people say they were super uncomfortable after one! hubby and i have been butting heads over him volunteering me for things for a bit now. ever since the partial thing he brought up. he thinks he "knows it all" and i know what my personal experience is, and with that i know that's about all i could handle doing with the way things went. my biggest fear is not being able to have the baby naturally and either having no choice but to have a c-section or to get completely doped up to where i don't have any control over ANYthing that happens to me. i have such bad luck, i don't even want to have that possibility with this situation. i'd wake up with a gender change somehow!
all my other doctors have always taken charge and decided for me, BUT they always had my best interest at heart. they've always told me "no thats not a good idea and i won't do it because..." this doctor tunes more into hubby than me. hubby told me that he thinks i'm uncomfortable with this doctor JUST because he's agreeing and doing what (catch this) *we* want instead of how the military doctors do it where hubby says "they get paid the same amount no matter what hours they work and they just want the easy way out. the only reason they're a military doctor is because they couldn't make it in the civilian world"... i don't agree, i think it makes them MORE human to do that for way less than civilians get paid, obviously they have to have passion for their work and the people, if they get paid so little... right??
by the way, does it hurt when they break your water for you? mine i never felt it, but it's always gone naturally...
Ugh it's too bad you guys have to even have this discussion. I'm not familiar with military care or anything so I can't relate to that. It's just a shame it's THIS complicated!!! And not just about the baby, then you have the added burden of the surgery on top of that, ugh.
As far as them breaking my water, I wouldn't say it hurt, no. It was uncomfortable and awkward feeling. All I remember it feeling like was some pressure and a pinching sensation. They use that long plastic stick with a hook on the end and put that up there (hence the awkwardness haha), doesn't sound comfy does it? lol. But it's not what I'd consider pain. Though my brother in laws's sister just had her first baby a couple weeks ago, and apparently she threw up after they broke it- but she's a bit of a whimp.
It could have been from the change in contractions that made her do that though, since it definitely intensifies things. It was nice last time having it broken before any contractions started because they came on hard, and I didn't have several hours to get used to contractions with a buffer there.
Like you, my biggest fear has always been a c-section. I have different reasons other than the recovery for not wanting one, that is the last of my concerns actually but.. I know several people that have had them and said they were nothing. Probably depends on your body, your pain tolerance, how fast you heal, and how much you have to do ya know. Still, I pray I never need one.