last night i got an uber big surprise. my mom's boyfriend asked brandon to call his daughter in north carolina to help her get into the army. well, when hubby called he answered, "hey, this is sgt miller, your dad is dating my MIL" to which he got the reply of "WHAT?!" this really blew up in my mom's ex-b/f's face. she was really nice about it, and understood we had no idea what was happening, but she was also nice enough to fill us in on what was going on. 3 years ago, mom went to el paso (activated for the army) and met ron, and they started dating. apparently, he hadn't even moved out of the house he shared with his wife (who he is STILL married to) and didn't do so until a few weeks after the year they spent in Tx. long story short, he lied to my mom about being divorced for THREE YEARS now. not only that, but he also failed to mention that he has a SECOND girlfriend in tennessee that he visits quite frequently, and has been lying to everyone about where he's going. not only that, but he has been "at work" when he spent the past TWO Christmases with US (to his family and g/f)! he was supposed to fly to MS to see my mom today, and told his family that he was going to greensboro to see friends. well, he is. at least he's flying out of there to go see my mom. after katrina, he told his family he was going to help a guy friend. yeah, that was my mom. when he told my mom AND his family he was going to see his dead grandfather's grave, he went to see his OTHER girlfriend. i'm sure you all get the point about what he's doing. i can't believe it. it's so upsetting that he's played everybody along for this long, not to mention that he's done this to his family for even LONGER. apparently, while they were in TX a guy from his unit e-mailed him and his daughter saw it, saying "don't worry, we won't tell anyone about your new g/f, esp. not your family..." i'm so shocked that someone would do that for him. i could keep my mouth shut, because it's not my business, but not flat out lie to people! mom talked to a guy in her unit a few weeks ago b/c the b/f has been proposing to mom (while married with a second g/f!) and the guy was shocked and said, "but...kim... he's still married!" which set my mom to thinking, but she didn't say anything to me, because she said she's embarrassed about the whole thing. i can understand, but i wish she would have let me know, if nothing but for some consolation or something.
some people can go so low, i can't begin to explain how i feel about him now. esp. since we let him into our house, no questions asked, for holidays, etc. and invited him with open arms for everything. i always try so hard to be nice to him and make him comfortable and now i find out he's been taking advantage of us the WHOLE time.