Calgon, take me away......
As I have mentioned before, we have sole custody of my husband's son. He is 16. Not an easy age...for him, or for us. He exhibits the typical teen tendency to be lazy, sullen, and dishonest....a dded to the unfortunate fact that he inheirited some of his mother's nasty disposition and flair for melodrama. Sometimes he is really hard to take. Like last night...
My husband stupidly tried to talk to him about college....whi ch led to talking about snowboarding. The kid is completely, totally OBSESSED with snowboarding. And it has gotten out of hand. He has no interest in anything else. He is in Scouts, but doesn't want to participate during the winter because it interferes with snowboarding. He tries to blow off going with us to see his 81 year old grama if it interferes with snowboarding. We hardly see him, either...he is either at the snowboarding park or up in his room on his computer looking up stuff about snowboarding. He has had only one date in two years because "girls don't snowboard". He is not even interested in getting his Driver's License! He got his permit in September and could get his license in 3 weeks if he had 60 hours of driving time....but since it Interferes With Snowboarding he only has 15 hours. I've never known a teen who didn't bust their butt to get their license....but as long as there is snow on the slopes, he doesn't care.
He is even basing college and his entire future on snowboarding. He wants to go to film school so he can make snowboard movies...and the ONLY school he will consider it University of Utah, because it is close to Park City.
This kid is in a very unique and desirable situation, for two reasons:
1. My father, who is quite wealthy, has offered to pay for his education. He could go to any school in the country, or abroad for that matter. There will be no worries about financial aid or scholarships or living expenses or school supplies.
2. My husband's cousin is a well-respected actor who could help him get into any of the best film schools....a list that UofU is not on.
We have tried to talk to him about this. We have suggested that he try to go to the best film school possible....he only wants to go where the snowboarding is good. We have suggested that he not pigeonhole himself by deciding at age 16 that he only wants to make snowboard movies....that he should have a broader focus his first couple years, like in medical school where you learn the basics and pick a specialty later on. He refuses to listen. We've told him that we know he likes snowboarding and it is a social outlet for him and he is part of the "cool crowd", but that will cease to matter the day he graduates high school so he shouldn't base his decisions on that.....but he insists. We have tried to point out that he is going to change so much in the next several years and should give himself as many options as possible until he matures and can better decide on his future....he claims he knows everything and argues like a petulant child.
He says he "doesn't like big cities!"....though the grand total amount of time he's ever spent in one has been 4 days in Fort Lauderdale and 2 days in NYC....he's been in BFE western Maryland his entire life.
He says he "definitely doesn't want to be in the Northeast"....though he's never been further east than Baltimore. Translation: the mountains out west are bigger and gnarlier.
He says he wants UofU based on the school....thou gh when we tell him that if we go to visit the campus we are going ONLY to the campus and not the slopes, he has a complete melodramatic sh!t fit. Truth is, we know if he sees the ski slopes that is ALL he will remember....th e campus could look like London after The Blitz for all he cares.
This is a VERY smart kid (got 1850 on his SAT without studying).....but he sure acts immature and dumb. We don't know how to get through to him. As I said, he is in a very unique situation....m ost kids can only dream of having the opportunities he has....but all he can see is snowboarding. I am so sick of hearing it I could scream. Anyone have any suggestions on this??