Yes, yes, yes, to Nicole's advice and the support messages in favor of it.
I would like to ad that it might feel or be different if you knew this "Jeff" BEFORE he was a substitute, but he met you as a **student** here: not a social equal or a friend. Being a teacher...subs
titute or otherwise...is not a leg up into social networking with students. It's a position of power and authority...an
d therefore, responsibility
.
"Jeff" might just be a really nice guy who thinks you're cool, isn't thinking about it, and means no harm at all. He might be a total creep who has something inappropriate in mind (even beyond the MySpace addition and such). Either way, he seems, based on your description, to have poor boundaries and to miss social cues and such from you.
Nobody begins an inappropriate teacher/student relationship successfully without *seeming* harmless at FIRST. It's later that the creepy stuff gradually seeps into what a student once thought was "different, but cool and okay."
You have a bad feeling. That's enough to go on. Go to a teacher you know and trust, and just let them know. You don't have to be mean, or feel like you're doing anything wrong, and you do not have to second-guess yourself or worry if you're "reading too much into" it. You are at least in HS, yes? And so far, has any other teacher of yours creeped you out or tried to add you to a MySpace friend page? If you're getting these feelings off of him specifically, it might very well be because there is something off about HIM, specifically.
MySpace and teachers has become a gray area of morals and ethics and responsibiliti
es these days, and it's just plain sad. Don't add him, but do tell someone.
Love,
Jen