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Offline 2Criminals

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Re: What is WRONG with me??????
« Reply #15 on: June 04, 2008, 06:16:21 pm »
I can't speak for the States, but here Campus "Police" are special constables...i e, they passed the physical component of the Police test and that's it. Call your local Police!
If you really think you are an easy target, there are some things you can change...1) Don't talk on your cell phone when walking to your car, it makes you distracted and you don't pay attention to your surroundings.. .2) Put your car key/ house key between the knuckles of your first two fingers, chances are you'll draw blood if attacked....3) Canadian campus' have safe-walkers to walk you to and from classses, cars... late at night, if you have them, use them!! Pepper spray is illegal in Canada (don't know about the states) and truely if you have never been exposed to it you may become more of a victim---it BURNS,I can't even explain to you how much, you can't physically open your eyes, takes at least 10 mins to keep your eyes open and navigate the world by yourself again, it drops people to the ground (good for attacker, not for you), and it is a spray, which makes it difficult to use outdoors, chances are you will get some on you too.

And don't get down on yourself, your screaming did the trick!! So what if you didn't beat him up, what would you do after you did anyway?

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Re: What is WRONG with me??????
« Reply #16 on: June 04, 2008, 06:37:52 pm »
can you call campus police for an escort to and from where ever you are going. Years ago(eons actually)when I was in college a girl was attacked and she was granted a personal escort after because the creep got away.  Do you have anyone to walk with you if that isnt an aoption.  Several of us girls and a few of our guy friends would walk together.
Chin up and be strong, as scarey as this may be dont let this fool see that he has the best of you.  It only impowers him!

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« Reply #17 on: June 05, 2008, 09:13:07 am »
So very sorry this happened to you, hon. You have been given some very good advice by your friends here. May I add something? DH is retired police and former boardmember of local 'women's advocacy' group. Sometimes it is the circumstances around you that make you the victim not your demeanor. Have you allowed yourself to get into a recognizable pattern? Leave work always at the same time? Park in the same spot in the parking area? Walk the same path to and fro? Drive home using the same route? Change it!!! Don't give a potential stalker a routine where he knows where you will be at a given time. This goes for all you ladies out there. Try hard first, not to put yourself in a position where you have to fight off an attack. Done preaching. And hon, talk about it. Don't let it pray on your mind. Find a women's assault group, or even just us, but don't let this creep keep you terrorized emotionally. Okay?
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« Reply #18 on: June 05, 2008, 10:02:03 am »
Good Morning/Afternoon I guess, depending where you're at..

Well...I feel today, is a better day.  I got to park super close...almost better than the handicap parking...whic h I totally feel bad about...

I have an escort on call, should I ever need one :)  And...asking if I could bring Monty into work with me didn't fly... :-\  But I tried...

Thank you EVERYONE who sent me loves and advice <3 I appreciate it more than you know...You guys are awesome...I'll  keep you posted if anything comes up :)
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Re: What is WRONG with me??????
« Reply #19 on: June 05, 2008, 10:04:31 am »
Glad to hear your day is much better. Too bad they didn't go for allowing Monty to come to work.. ;)

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Re: What is WRONG with me??????
« Reply #20 on: June 05, 2008, 12:19:06 pm »
I'm glad to hear you are doing better today.  I second everything everryone has said regarding staying safe.

As for not being able to ID the guy, I hope you aren't still beating yourself up about it.  Yeah, he's still out there, but I'm guessing he came at you from behind (the coward scum bags usually do), and during the struggle, you were literally fighting for your life.  No one will fault you for putting that as your priority right then.  Who knows what could have happened if you didn't fight him off.  I'm sure that went through your head too.  I can bet you anything I and a lot of other women wouldn't be able to ID him after that either.  Spreading the word that he is out there is doing plenty enough.
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