I'm so sorry that you are having such a bad week. I haven't been on as much as I had been work is CRAZY - so hopefully your daughter is on the road to a quick recovery as well as your precious pup.
My daughter was hospilized last summer and the doctors thought it was hepatitus, menengitus, mono, all kinds of things it is so scary - it turns out she had kawasaki's disease - I don't think that is what your daughter has - different symptoms and generally asian children. But we rode the storm and she has made a full recovery.
I also totally get your problem with hubby - many people on this board know that my hubby is not a Harley fan, he threatened to get rid of him also. Tell hubby that you hear him, however, there is way to much going on in your life right now to deal with this and he needs to put his feelings on hold and worry about you and your daughter.
I'm not going to say hubby and Harley are best friends but whenever hubby makes himself a sandwich or toast, harley always gets a piece of toast, buttered and cut up. So I guess he is willing to put up with him.
I am so sorry about your friend and neighbor that is devestating to her family and friends.
Randy