My husband and I both brought two dogs each into our marriage. My two dogs, Rocco and Maia, and one of his dogs, Baxter are great together. They are fine with our routine of am eat, outside to go potty, into cages for the day, outside to play for an hour at lunch, eat dinner then outside when I get home from work until they get tired and want to come in (usually 30 minutes to an hour), then they hang out in the kitchen until our son goes to bed.
His older dog, Cody isn't doing well with my dogs, doesn't like being in his cage but destroys things if left out, barks constantly when outside, whines when he is in the kitchen, and just can't seem to settle down when we are all hanging out at night. We let the dogs hang out one at a time with all of us before Kole goes to bed but they are all big so we can't have all four out with us.
Drew is getting really upset with having to yell atbthe dogs when Cody growls and starts things, let Cody in while everyone else plays outside, listening to him whine in the kitchen while we are getting Kole ready for bed, then having to deal with him stirring everyone else up in the evenings. Plus, he whines and barks on and off throughout the night in his cage. I won't let him sleep with us because he spooks easily at night and I get up a few times to use the restroom or check on Kole.
So, this week Drew has started talking about finding him a new home. I don't think we should because he committed to raising him for life when he got him and I made that committment when we got married. Cody is safe, warm, and well fed but not happy. I want Drew to spend more time with him alone but he is not willing. (Cody doesn't love me, he won't let me pet him, only feed him and let him in and out). He bit my hand once when I reached for him but it didn't leave a mark and as soon as he made contact he knew what he did and licked me.
What do you guys think we should do? I am willing to keep him and put up with him. But is it fair to him.