No soft hearts... i guarantee lilly knows that...dont even make eye contact with her....
This is what I would do....
let her out of crate in morning to go the bathroom on leash. Just grab her collar put the leash on not talking or petting or eye contact..once you know she is finished eliminateing, back in crate no acknowledgemen t what so ever
you can even hold her food from her if you want to (i held breakfast this morning, if she wasnt a pup I would hold her dinner too)
then go on with your monring...
when you are ready to work with her, let her out of her crate and ingnore her...when she looks for attention, ignore her...when you ar ready, call her over, if she comes make her do a sit when she listens small treat small praise and then ignore again. If she doesnt come to you when you call her, back in crate no attention. WHen you tell her that you are ready for attention call her over repeat with treat and small praise if she doesnt, in the crate
when your other dog is in the same room or around, i would keep her leashed with you on the other end, if she gets rather nasty to your dog correction, if the dog doesnt listen, back in crate
The key here is ignoring...no emotion what so ever...you can not be angry or upset...you need to be relaxed, condifent and sure of yourself...onl y do this when you feel that way otherwise keep her in her crate...
this is your house she needs to follow your rules, not hers...