boy, i know how hard this can be! i feel your pain, i just wish i could do more for you! for instance, my mother in law won't let ANY of our dogs within 10 foot of her before she starts yelling at them. literally. they don't even have to be doing anything, sleeping even and she'll get mad they're "too close" to her even if she's the one who moved somewhere that put her closer. the whole time she's here all i hear about is how horrible my dogs are, and here's the catch. they're great. they don't cause trouble, they don't make messes, or bother anyone, NOTHING. all i can say is, keep seeing humor in things that happen, and just remember. when they leave, it'll go back to normal and maybe they'll stay in a hotel next time (you may not want that, but that's what i wish for at least, and after 4 years everybody has finally gotten the point and does it!)