My Husband is leaving me

[Blair]

After 7 yrs of being together married...my husband up and tells me he doesnt want to spend forever with me...no reason or anything. I am in shocked and I havne no clue what to do. I have NO money and only place to leave is with my parents, which I cant take the boys. I have no money to keep them...I have no money to support myself I am so lost...my heart is broken!!! I thought everything was great but I was completely wrong. I dont know what to do

[People Whisperer]

OMG! I am so sorry! I don't even know what to say right now Let me gather my thoughts...

[navarre1316]

OMG, I am so sorry.  Don't know what to say either.  Why are you the one who has to leave the house?

[LibbyP]

I know this kinda sounds dumb at a time like this but I'm really, really sorry. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now the shock,pain,anger... pls know I am here to offer support in any way ~ sending you a big hug

[lins_saving_grace]

Tomorrow is another day.  sometimes when we least expect it tomorrow brings us something we didn't expect or want but something that is in our destiny anyway.  
There's a saying that got me through a lot of hard times this last year and a half...from the beginning of my now ex husband's drinking binge to the end of my marriage....th e saying goes something like this.  "God wouldn't give us a mountain we can't climb."  i know that's not comforting to you right this minute, but someday when you've gotten over this mountain you'll look back and say "God was right and I got over that mountain."  whether the end result is good or bad, things will work themselves through.  
so for now let your heart break and tomorrow attack that mountain.

[horsepoor21]

Oh my gosh Blair , I can't believe this is happening to you ! I am so sorry , please know I am praying for you , all of BPO is here for you !

[People Whisperer]

What I always say " whatever happens, happens for a reason"
It always worked for me. You will get through it girl! PM me if you need to talk

[lins_saving_grace]

Oh, Blair!!  I am so, so sorry!!  That is just such a sucky thing to have to deal with.  But I definitely agree with Navarre...why do you need to leave the house?  Part of leaving a marriage is taking care of the financial commitments you made.  He needs to pay for you and the girls and the boys to stay in that house or, at the very least, get another decent one that is more affordable.  I know it's the last thing you feel like doing when you're feeling crushed like this, but you need to see a lawyer first thing tomorrow.

definately talk to a lawyer!!!!

[navarre1316]

Tomorrow is another day. sometimes when we least expect it tomorrow brings us something we didn't expect or want but something that is in our destiny anyway.
There's a saying that got me through a lot of hard times this last year and a half...from the beginning of my now ex husband's drinking binge to the end of my marriage....th e saying goes something like this. "God wouldn't give us a mountain we can't climb." i know that's not comforting to you right this minute, but someday when you've gotten over this mountain you'll look back and say "God was right and I got over that mountain." whether the end result is good or bad, things will work themselves through.
so for now let your heart break and tomorrow attack that mountain.

I love that!!  One that I like, that I'm working with at the moment, is: God's will, will never give you more than God's grace can get you through.
I don't know if that's exactly right, but that's what I tell myself.

And I will fourth, or whatever number we're on, getting a lawyer.

[lins_saving_grace]

Tomorrow is another day. sometimes when we least expect it tomorrow brings us something we didn't expect or want but something that is in our destiny anyway.
There's a saying that got me through a lot of hard times this last year and a half...from the beginning of my now ex husband's drinking binge to the end of my marriage....th e saying goes something like this. "God wouldn't give us a mountain we can't climb." i know that's not comforting to you right this minute, but someday when you've gotten over this mountain you'll look back and say "God was right and I got over that mountain." whether the end result is good or bad, things will work themselves through.
so for now let your heart break and tomorrow attack that mountain.

I love that!!  One that I like, that I'm working with at the moment, is: God's will, will never give you more than God's grace can get you through.
I don't know if that's exactly right, but that's what I tell myself.

And I will fourth, or whatever number we're on, getting a lawyer.

thank you!  i like yours too.  more eliquant than mine...but it gets you through the same expecially when we need it most.

[mama23+pyrs2]

I am very sorry as well. You WILL get through this and come out a stronger (and happier) woman because of it, just too soon to think about that now. I would refuse to leave my home, plain and simple. He can't just tell you to leave if that is what is happening. Get the lawyer, as horrible a thought as court is, it can be necessary in situations like these. Best of luck to you and your family. HUGS

[MagicM3]

So sorry you have to deal with this sucky situtation,but I must agree,he wants to leave let him do the leaving and by all means get a lawyer.
He obviously has thought about this,and probably already has one.I agree with whoever said let your heart break and attack the mountian.
You can grieve latter,put yourself and the girls and puppers 1st.

Tricia and the fur kids

[bigdogs@5501]

Oh that is BS- I agree- He not only needs to leave you the house- but he needs to support you until you can support yourself- You have taken care of him, his children, his home etc for 7 years- that is not some thing that he is going to walk away from with no strings attached. If you are worried financially about the lawyer- go to legal aid- or a Womens group. I bet that they can help. Sounds like he has someone else-they dont just get bored and want something different with out a reason. Let me know if there is anything that I can do to help you. Arent you in Texas? or am I just off track as usual?

[Blair]

Thanks everyone....He didnt kick me out I just called my parents cause I had to leave for the night. I am going home today. I still love him, I called him and talked but he wont change his mind so I guess its really over I never thought this would ever happen, I thought we were fine together, happy. We went out to eat and then me and Skyla went to get him a father's day gift. When we got home he sat on the bed and looked me in the eyes and said "I dont want to spend forever with you" I thought he was joking, but sadly he wasnt. I got no sleep last night, all I could think of was him saying that. I am still in shock and my heart is crushed!!!!!! Whats really sad is Myranda is gone for the summer and I dont know how to tell her. And as for Skyla  she is such a daddy's girl this will break her!!! I am so lost, my stomach is just sick. I was hoping when I woke up this would all be a dream but its not. My husband is really leaving me. I have no job, no money, and I dont know how to drive...I am such a loser. I have a lot to do to get on my feet and I have to do it all raising 2 daughters on my own! And he just bought me an Afghan Hound puppy last Saturday, she is 5 months old, and she will probably be going back to her breeder. I told him if he knew he wasnt happy with me he shouldnt of bought me her. His reasoning for leaving me is he isnt happy and its not there anymore?!?!?!?! He hasnt been happy in over a year And here I thought everything was good between us Im so sick, I was thought I would grow old with him, I still love him and dont want this. I dont know how to go on without him

[EllieAndBlu]

I'm so sorry Blair.  I know you must be devestated.

But now the b*tch is gonna come out.  Get him Blair.  If he thinks he can just tell you you have to leave the house that you have made a home with two young children, he and his pea brain are looney.  You stay put.  You get a lawyer.  And you take that loser to court and let him see what a statement like that is going to cost him. 

This may sound insensative but you need to show your daughters that no one can do that to anyone.  They need to see their mother be strong and know that she is and will do what she needs to do for their sake.  Fall apart when they are not home, but try, try to let them see you strong.

Plus you have a family here that will push you and help you do what you need to do.

I'm sorry if I sound like I'm on a tear.  But I really get hot under the collar when I see things like this happen to nice people.

I second all of this. I realize that you are hurt and confused, but put that aside and get MAD. Anger is a great tool against grief and doormattedness . He has no right to evict you, much less your girls on a moments notice.

Like Tina, I am sorry that this sounds like a tear, but I am sick and tired of hearing about self-indulgent, self centered people tearing apart the lives of others to "find themselves" or "find happiness". If you are an adult and still lost, still in immature teenaged bewilderment, stay that way--yourself ain't worth finding.
Stella

I couldn't have said any of this better myself!
Blair - I am so, so sorry you are having to go through this. You, the girls and your boys deserve way better! hang in there and take care of you and your babies! Please know we are all here for you!