Lin, being with an alcoholic and cocaine abuser for 8 years is where I come from. He never treated me right, chased me around the house with a butcher's knife and was always drunk on the weekends while I was home taking care of our newborn. I may not know you well, but I know the situation. Been there, done that. Please, if you do nothing else, get out ASAP. I did. Got some things straightened out, called my parents, packed my bags and left before he came home from work. To say he was surprised is the understatement of the century. An alcoholic is a selfish person and cares for nothing but themselves and that bottle. Two years later we're still in Family and Support court and I wouldn't trade these two hard years for anything. He's finally beginning to learn about what he's done to me and our daughter. Of course it took 4 DWI's later. It got so bad that Child Protective even got involved because of his behavior, BUT, he's actually crawling out of the hole he dug himself and trying to do better. Jail, unemployment and family court will do that to you. And what have I gotten out of this? The realization that I am a strong woman and don't need someone like him around. You're that same strong woman. Don't allow him to walk on you and do what he wants. The best revenge I ever got with my ex was when he started dating, moved a woman in and she turned out to be the biggest mistake he ever made. I just stood around and laughed. It looks bad now, but it will be better. That's just my two cents worth. No man (or woman) is worth losing your self-respect for.
